SEIYEFA, THE CASSAVA BOY by Siloko, Oyintari Ben.

SEIYEFA, THE CASSAVA BOY by Siloko, Oyintari Ben.

It was 1994, 24^th November, a cold afternoon under the Udara tree. I heard the voice clearly from afar, Seiyefa!!! Seiyefa! I didn’t bother to answer because my parents told me a very scary tale about spirits calling people sometimes, and if you mistakenly answer by error and you didn’t see anyone, you must quickly say Ine Teme Waibo [My spirit come back].

The voice kept calling Seiyefa!!! Seiyefa! I could hear the thunderstorm loudly each time my name echoes, which made it more frightening. The braveness in me ignited, being among the best wrestlers in my community. I moved towards the voice with courage. 

Just then, I saw Kurotimi, the greatest wrestler in my community – famous with the name, ‘the power house.’ I hailed him – Power! But the look on Kurotimi’s eyes wasn’t pleasant. Immediately, I yelled at him, Tei Ke Pama [what happened]; he was silent, I yelled at him at the top of my voice, Power!!! Tei ke pama. [Power what happened]

Kurotimi looked into my eyes, hugged me tightly and whispered into my ears, General don go battle field and him no da come back. It was as if a different spirit entered me, I held kurotimi back, as if I was about to shake myself off his grip, I shouted louder at him this time, Power - Ye gba ni dia eh, gba! Gba!! Gba!!! Gba!!!! [Power tell me something, say it, say it, say it] I can see tears rolling down the cheeks of Kurotimi, then I was convinced something was wrong.

Ine dau fide [your father is dead], Power said in awe, it was as if the rains were waiting for the news to be broken to me. It poured down heavily on us. I wrestled Kurotimi to the ground, just to gain my freedom of expression. 

I raced like never before. The moment I got home, everyone in my compound was mourning. Seeing me, some people ran to console me, alas,  I pushed them aside and ran straight inside the house, seeing the lifeless body of Chief Timipre Ngekpu Waibo, I lost consciousness. 

When I regained consciousness, I was at a corner of our beautifully made thatch house, surrounded by the youths of our community led by Kurotimi. I broke free from them and started searching for my mother and younger bro, Embelakpor. I found them at the back of the compound, surrounded by women. I advanced closer and wrapped them in my arms, consoling my mother.

[TWO MONTHS LATER, AFTER THE BURIAL OF MY FATHER]

Mama, things go better, wo dau ogono emi owei, blessings sai bo emi [our father in heaven is bringing us blessings]. Amen ine tubou, Ine koro bi di, kor kor, ari ine dau tubou eh [Amen my son, look at your face, indeed you are the son of your father].

I began farming on the cassava farm left behind by my father. The little cassava farm became so large. I harvested the cassava, peeled it, washed it and took it to the grinder. After grinding, I mixed it with palm oil, since mama and papa love yellow garri so much. After mixing, I bagged it and left it there, for the grinder to make it dry.

I enjoyed fryng garri so much, it was something I learnt how to do from my father. 

The interna-sunal [international, pronounced with our local accent] fryer, my mother teased me like my father did. After frying, mama called me, and started praying for me. 

One thing I know my mother doesn’t joke with was prayers, even though my father never believed in her prayers.

You no go lack anything for this life, I responded Amen

Your hard work go bring plenty blessing come anywhere you da, I replied Amen.

After series of prayers, I took the garri to the market to sell, so we can have some money for the family upkeep and Embelakpor’s school fees.

It was 4pm, that Monday evening at the market. I was hearing a different accent Saifar! Saifar! In my usual way, I didn’t respond because of the fairy tale about spirits calling. Aside that, I said to myself, my name no be Saifar, my name na Seiyefa. Maybe na all this 'i too know English' township people when don come market to buy our correct village product.

As I was meditating, a customer came to me, requesting for two rubbers of garri. The moment I was about putting the first rubber into the nylon for the customer, whom I had been admiring her daughter for years, someone held my hands, and in shock, the bucket of garri fell to the ground.

Bei ma teh ese ah [what kind of trouble is this], I said as I was raising my head to see who had touched me.

John Bosco, I shouted in excitement ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………

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Often times, people always discourage others from pursing their dreams. They look at you and ask, “What do you stand to gain from this society that is full of CONNECTIONS? They will even go further to tell you to your face that you will never succeed. The moment you listen to them and succumb to deviate from your mission in life, you will forever live to regret the action you took. At that point in life, you have stopped living, but because of your breath, you will start existing without dreams.

Using myself as an example, publishing my second book, “Fulfilling my Dream” wasn’t achieved as a free drink, or a platter of gold. It required focus and determination to fulfil the dream of publishing the book. Moments came when quitting became a best option for me due to the setbacks, but determination brought me off the floor, so I won’t eat the dirt thrown at me.

People are permitted to throw dirt’s on you, but the question is, ‘WILL YOU EAT IT?’ The reason I refused to eat dirt was because I had a vision, with a great strategic mission. My drive for my publication continued until the book, FULFILLING MY DREAM’ was published.

The story above can be likened unto a high level of commitment, not the kind of commitment that you speak with your mouth, and back off when challenges come. Christopher Columbus asserted that you can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. There was a success story attached to the book fulfilling my dream. If I had given up, the success story wouldn’t have emerged. Sometimes you have to tell that negative thought an upper case letter NO, not a lower case no. 

There should be power in your determination. Within the first month of publishing the book, a school requested for a thousand copies, because they saw the potential in the book to transform their students; State Governments approved for schools in their various states.

Siloko Oyintari Ben said, “Never give up because you don’t know which phase of your life will unlock your success story.” Can you be traveling to a particular destination and stop thirty minutes before arriving at your destination, after travelling for nine hours and say you are going back to the exact point you started your journey simply because you were impatient. If you do that, you are only putting more burden on your shoulders.

Don’t let people know your weakness, because they will constantly buy you those things that make you weak, knowing fully well that you can’t resist accepting, which in turn tears you apart.

GET UP - IT'S SUNRISE by Siloko Oyintari Ben.

Those who start working before the sunrise always end up becoming professionals in their chosen field. Dreams might not be fulfilled in a month, a year, or maybe sometimes in five to ten years, but it will definitely be fulfilled. The basic necessity for you is focus. You have to focus on that one thing which makes you passionate about your goals.

Don’t ever compare yourself with others, rather dominate your society with your skills. Some people have sight but don’t have vision which is why they end up looking without seeing. Not everybody that looks at a particular direction see every object around there, the blind man can look and not see, because physically he is blind. That is the same way a man without vision can look and not see the potentials required for him to succeed.

Some people who have vision and don’t end up being successful fail because they lack target. ‘Vision without mission leads to illusion – Siloko Oyintari Ben.’ How can you play football without a goal post? Will you pay to watch a premier league game without a goal post? Most times, the beauty of the game is the goal they score.

The potentials in me would have died long ago if I had no vision, coupled with my mission serviced always. Your mission should be like a clock that ticks every second, it is either you are working or thinking of new ways and strategies to actualize your vision.

Nobody was willing to support my first publication, but I told myself I was going to keep on writing, even if nobody approves to assist me in publishing my books. You are the only one who has the vision, those who refuse to support you don’t know how great that vision is until you put your mission running effectively, only then they will begin to see the greatness of your apotheosis.

I published my first book during my NYSC [national youth service scheme – a one year compulsory service to the nation for every graduate] days in Warri, Delta State, Nigeria. My friends were dressing their bodies with their finances, while I was saving my finances to dress my destiny. To summarize the whole story, I finally published my maiden book, ‘CREATIVITY FOR EXCELLENCE’ before my passing out parade from NYSC, for a sum of a hundred and fifty thousand naira. At the time, my take home pay was nineteen thousand eight hundred naira only, I had to look for extra jobs, like private lessons, and also engaged in running transport services. I was aware that I needed an extra income if I want to publish my book. That was how a mission gave birth to a vision. I didn’t see the published book alone, I had to work to hold it in my hands.

Photo Credit - https://www.photopills.com/articles/sunrise-photography-guide 

CELEBRATING NIGERIA YOUNG PROFESSIONAL FORUM NYPF @5.

Suzy kassem asserted "Whatever your passion is, keep doing it. Don't waste time chasing after success or comparing yourself to others. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Excel at doing what your passion is and only focus on perfecting it. Eventually people will see what you are great at doing, and if you are truly great, success will come chasing after you."

Moses Siloko Siasia has taken NYPF to a great level with consistency. We will be seeing a great display of an organization with the desires of national development, peace and progress.

Anticipating one of the greatest event in the world, on the 1st Day of December 2018.

I love NYPF because their vision and mission is for global development..

They have so much passion for :

- Human capacity building.
- Education.
- Giving hope to the hopeless.
- Championing the course for a better nation.
- Appreciating those who have distinguished themselves positively.

It's indeed made up of young professionals, with a capacity chairman that has affected so many lives positively.

According to Jim Rohn, “All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine."

The chairman who happens to be my elder brother is also my mentor. He inspires me and a whole lot of young people all over the world.

I am deeply grateful to God for giving me such an amazing brother with a heart of gold.

Moses Siloko Siasia.
The Chairman / CEO - Mosilo Groups.
Founder - Nigeria Young Professional Forum.

PEOPLE OF SUBSTANCE BY Siloko, Oyintari Ben.

It is how you deal with failure that determines how you achieve success, it is disappointments that provokes experience, while experience initiates wisdom. Start thinking positively now.

If you wish to be extraordinarily versatile to any situation which may surface, you need to engage your mind to think creatively every single day of your life.

People of substance are cognizant that life is a battle, and only the brave ones can overcome such battle.

Mark Twain asserts that “courage is not lack of fear or absence of fear. It is the mastery of fear, control of fear. And the key you need is self-discipline."

It is not how long you learn, but how fast you understand that produces result in your life.
Appreciate whatever position you find yourself today and never allow gifts make you vulnerable.

Your determination in life guarantees growth, which is capable of creating an aura that could instill respect.

Finally let me quote myself, “If you are not a reader, you cannot be a thinker; and if you are not a thinker, you cannot become a solution, and if you cannot become a solution, you will never be relevant in your society.”

MASTERING THE ART OF THINKING

Being afraid to fail won't only keep you away from failing, it will make you a miserable loser in life.
If you don't fail now to succeed, you will fail tomorrow when others are succeeding.

Have you ever imagined, if Michael Jordan was scared of missing, your guess is as good as mine; he won't have ever taken a shot.
What if Steve Jobs was also afraid of people not liking his products, there won't have been an iPhone.

It is necessary to know that the more you fail, the more wiser you become, and the better your drive towards achieving your desires.

Develop yourself, weaponize yourself, teach yourself to be so good that you don't think about your comfort zone.

Sometimes you can be so prepared and still fail, and get so heart broken but discipline, dedication and determination should be able to pick you up and get things done over again.

It is never too late to change your life and be committed to your dreams. If you want to change your life and become a better individual, you have to change the way you think.

Don't wait for your employment status to change, don't wait for your salary to change, don't wait for the economy to change, don't wait for circumstances outside to change, Just change the way you think.

If you want to be sincere with yourself, you can ask yourself one question, which is, "What will my life become if these things I mentioned above don't change?"

You should know that eighty percent of anything you do is psychological, while twenty percent is mechanical which is the main reason for you to think and discover those untapped potentials in you to achieve outstanding results.

It is better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one, than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.
You have to master preparation because success lives next door to you.

Watch your relationships. There are nursing relationships and toxic relationships. Nursing relationships brings out the best in you, while toxic relationship drains you.

People who are hungry wants to do things others can't do, so they can have what others don't have tomorrow.
They want to get to the top because the bottom is always crowded.

If you do what is easy, your life will be hard, but if you do what is hard, your life will be easy.

Make the choice today.
Good luck and Godspeed to you.
Happy new week.

CONQUER YOUR FEARS & COMMAND YOUR SCHEDULE

Life is actually an act of faith and gamble. There is nothing you cannot be, there is nothing you cannot do and there is nothing you cannot have.
Each day when I wake up in the morning, I ask myself “Ben do you want to be depressed today or you want to live happily?” then I choose to live happy.
If you want to be happy, then you have to be happy on purpose because happiness is not going to fall on you.
Some morning, you can wake up feeling very bad, but you must never have an agreement with such thoughts because if you choose to agree, you have chosen to have a lousy day, which will pave the way for defeat, discouragement and mediocrity.
Each morning when you wake up, you won’t see the day you are going to have, but you can decide the kind of day you want to have.
Just make a declaration once you wake up by speaking positive things ahead of the day.
Most of the time, we have what we need to be happy, but we don’t have the right prospective. You can change your life but it starts with your choices.
For instance, you may not be happy at the job you are right now, but if for some reasons you were to lose that job and you went months to months without any income, and then one day you were able to get that same job back; most likely, you will be extremely happy.
You had what you need to be happy, but you didn’t realize it.
Everyone of us have something right now to be happy, it could be your health, job, family, opportunity, spouse.
The opportunity you have today might not be here again, you have to make a choice because it is the only moment you have.
In the beginning of every project, we all feel excited, feeling like it is an easy way to pull through, but after some weeks, you get discouraged and sometimes even ask yourself “Why me”
The good news is that, when you start feeling this way, you are about to get a breakthrough, getting through to the place most people can’t reach because they lack commitment and determination.
For you to be the best, you have to command your schedule, don’t wait for someone to choose you.
Close those browsers, switch off that T.V, live an unusual life, change your surroundings, resist that urge to always sit around and watch your favourite T.V program because in life, you don’t get to know your boundaries unless you push them, you also don’t get to know who you are unless you test it.
Godspeed to you.